by Charles Lightwalker
Each of us spends a large part of the day doing the same
repetive tasks...taking a bath,eating,working,using the evening
hours to enjoy friends or family,listen to music,dance,yoga,and
certain maintenance jobs such as washing dishes,laundry,cleaning,etc.
At first glance, it appears that we don't have much time to
stop and amke life-changing choices. But that is just what
appears at first glance. What is really happening throughout
the day is a constant shifting vision of choices.And within
thise choices are decisions to be made by you.
Authentic action means that you are in complete integrity
within yourself in all that you do. Authentic action allows
no hidden agendas.It demands complete honesty. I had the opportunity
to watch Barbara Streisand on the Oprah Show(Dec.26th,2003)
The conversation turned to the question of how she felt turning
50 years old.She was refelective for a moment, and then shared
she did not like turning 50,she was fine with 30, ok with
40,but did not much like turning 50. However, having said
that, she said that in reality she has settled into an awareness
that feels elevating and freeing.("I feel less stifled,and
I compromise more")
Just stop for amoment and think about that. Stifle less...compromise
more.I find it extremely important,and freeing concept. If
we are truly free to express, and create, and Be just who
we are, then there is no longer a feeling of being shut down,
However, to be truly strong and steadfast, we must need to
feel validated without outside recongnition. So who does the
You do. You know yourself best. You know when you are feeling
fulfilled,you know when you are feeling"less than",
and you know whenyou are feeling disconnected.
The goal, I believe, is to find your own center, your secure
place. The knowing part of you. And once you do, you must
work only from that center point in all you do. Yhat is what
I mean by being "in the Space".You can't do your
best from someone else's space.i has to be your "own
The best part of this that when you are "in your space",
everything is easy. Did you ever play golf,or bowl a game
when you couldn't miss? Never before, and maybe never again,did
you do so well.
Think about how that felt. There was no funny twist,or glitch,or
clutch in your body. Everything moved smooth as silk. In the
Space. Everything smooth and easy.
Well,I think and experience helps us into the Space. Life
moves more smoothly, material things lose their glamour,rushing
seem like a virtue,and we finally understand what is meant
by"don't sweat the small stuff".It is like the willow
in the wind.It can flow with breeze,or bend in the strong
wind,and still remain intact. But,the stauncher,solid trees
can tend to break off,
sometimes just a branch,and sometimes the whole tree snaps
off right across the middle.
When you are strong, and secure within yourself,you no longer
have to shout your truths. You know who you are. So,you can
sit back calmly,and allow. Allow others their choices(without
needing to provide your daily input) Allow others to share
their concerns(without needing to provide your guidance.)
Allow others to suggest,or ask,something of you(without needing
to refuse just to prove you can hold your ground.)
The little compromises we make each day, the giving actually
reveal an inner strength,for it is a reflection of our consciousness
that to compromise does not diminish us.
Compromise does not mean giving up,or giving in. It just means
giving . Often the giving that we are asked to do is very
especially in the frame of the bigger picture.Yet when we
are not secure within,it is not the size that causes the discomfort,
it is the act itself.
I have learned that by listening more,and talking less, there
is an ease in social contacts. Iam never without a story to
share, but when I listen, watch, and connect energetically,
rather than vocally, there is an elevation to the experience.
What joy to discover that I can decline to do something that
doesn't attract me. And what joy I find in the simple things
I do choose to do. The simple tasks of folding brochures,playing
with my daughter, no longer have a sence of hurry about them.
I did things slower, and savor each one more. I find that
I trust myself more.
The pinnacle of wisdom, really isn't about age. it seems so
silly to wait until we reach a mythical age of wisdom ( the
Indgio & Crystal children are not waiting), before we
I invite you to move into 2004 along with me,accepting yourself
more, listening more, talking less,being present more, and
just enjoying life to its fullness.
Charles Lightwalker lives in Spokane Washington with his Partner
Serena and their beautiful daughter Mayah. For more info go
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